Saturday, February 21, 2009

Keep Applying, Keep Appealing, Keep Faith

Some small tidbits for a Tough Boy as we wait for Spring, longer days, and more sunshine (for those in North America)!!

1) Apply for your Statewide Head Injury Program (SHIP). Not all states have one, but it's worth looking into. This is the link for Massachusetts SHIP info.

2) Denied Social Security Disability? Here's an online appeal link.

3) Explore other - sometimes less obvious, less solid, less structured, or less tangible - avenues for support. Whether you have faith, want faith, need faith; whether you believe or you know others that believe in something different, religious, greater than you, or spiritual. Pray, have others pray, or dig a little deeper in yourself.

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Today I received a long awaited letter from the Massachusetts Rehabilitation Commission regarding my application to the Statewide Head Injury Program (SHIP).


I have been determined ELIGIBLE!!!!!!

This could potentially lead to a less grueling attempt to participate in vocation rehab - which I so desperately need to begin working again.


Not all state rehab services have a specific head injury program to apply to - but it's worth looking into. I'm also not sure about other countries (such as Canada or New Zealand). This is the link for info on applying for Massachusetts' SHIP.

Even if you aren't found eligible for services, it's important to apply anyway to help create awareness of how, when, etc you were affected by a head injury or concussion. A lot of funding governed towards these programs are allocated based on numbers - and those numbers are probably largely inaccurate for mild brain injuries. It could be your little impact towards better recognition and awareness for this frustrating invisible disability.


Update on My Life

I've been a mess the last few months. Uncharacteristically, last week I had a really great week. However, I am back to experiencing different levels of anxiety, neck/back pain, some depression, and a lot of unknown and uncertainty.

Thank you for checking in on me - for those who have - I'm still alive, just crawling along. I really do appreciate your thoughts and/or your prayers.


Low Energy Neurofeedback System

I know I am still yet to talk about the LENS treatment I've been getting - but I had gotten "too much" neurofeedback about a month ago and it resulted in the most unstable emotional state I've ever been in. Its important that someone who treats you with LENS knows how to go slowly, or to slow it down if you experience a week of instability.

To just touch a little on how bad it was: I cried... no, I weeped and ruminated in a persistent panic attack from the Thursday morning to the following Tuesday afternoon.

I knew it wasn't normal, I knew it wasn't how I think, and I'm fortunate to have been aware enough to know the difference. Needless to say, in that time, I really felt if those feelings would continue until my next weekly appointment, I needed 24 hour observation and a team of qualified mental health professionals to stabilize me. I had called my insurance about inpatient coverage, I had found McClean Psychiatric Hospital and found someone to take me there if I needed, I discussed admission procedures and even discussed with my lawyer, if I were to go what my options would be to cover the expenses. I was completely ready for a two week intensive psychiatric intervention as an inpatient.


There Just HAS to be Something Bigger than Little Me


That Thursday, I went to the book store and bought a book found in the 'Christian' area. For the entire weekend I was finally willing to really devote myself to reading about why 'God' makes people suffer and how 'He' plans to redeem you.

I found a book written by a psychologist that works with adults who were sexually abused as children, Dan B. Allender, PhD. His book, "The Healing Path," was not very preachy - which is exactly what I needed to begin to think about and maybe begin to accept something bigger than me, possibly called "God."

I was baptised both Roman Catholic and also Protestant. I attended a protestant church when I was very young, but my upbringing really didn't stress religion at all. By the time I was attending college, I gave up the fact that the bible would ever influence me. Three or four years ago, I actually flat out denied any faith - if I felt the need to pray, I would deliberately stop myself and say out loud "No, God doesn't exist. Anything I say will be wasted breath."

I can't sit and read the bible. I don't have the patience. I don't understand the language. I need someone to tell me in layman terms. I don't want a ton of (possibly fictional) bible stories as examples; I want real people who believe to tell me why I should believe, how they pray and what he's done for them. I'm a tough critic. But part of it is a readiness to accept a faith and put everything driving me to stress out, hopefully, into someone else's hands. I was so very much at the bottom of the world and ready.

This book was really good for what I personally needed. I am still not religious, or pushing it on anyone, but I am making a conscious effort to believe God has a plan. I am making a conscious effort to pray for Him to love me - for everything I am right now, as I am, despite everything I am incapable of doing right now. This book got me through the week until my next appointment.


Stressed and Overwhelmed

So between getting denied social security, missing the 60 day deadline to appeal the denial, not hearing from SHIP, not getting on a list for vocational rehab services until at least April, not having a dime for April 1st rent and beyond, having to RELEARN six years of pharmacy lingo and thousands of drugs to take my boards March 12 and 19th, and having absolutely NO energy to pull myself together - I'm trying not to freak out. I'm still alive.

One thing at a time. And some things might start to look a little up... but before I count the eggs in my basket, I'm still waiting anxiously for some very critical things to fall into place. Please continue thinking of me and I will try my hardest not to tweak out before jotting down any other things that can help you in your life through your recovery.

If it helps - I'm thinking of you, too.

Sunday, February 1, 2009

Just barely getting by

Tough Boy:

1) Just keep going.

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I haven't been myself the past few months. I really have no idea what I've been doing. I have nothing constructive to show for the time that's lapsed since December. I have been struggling to figure out how to keep holding on to some of 'me' though.... The last time I had spent a night with my friend in RI was towards the end of January, but not since December 2nd the time before. I usually hang out with her each time I go down, once a week. Not to say I had completely isolated myself... but I noticed I just couldn't find the energy to watch her sing Karaoke so I just didn't go.

In an effort to pull myself back, I spent a few nights of the last two months trying to be social or once in a while hanging out one-on-one with someone. I just have to make sure I'm still remembering to eat!

I'm just in a funk. I have just enough energy to do the bare minimal of "thinking about" doing things... but nothing to start or attempt to complete projects. This includes my appeal for the Social Security Disability denial decision I received. My 60 days to file has already passed... I just don't have the energy.... :(

I'm hanging on by a string the past two months. It's a rollercoaster I just can't get off. But I'm not having fun anymore. I haven't liked this ride from the moment it took off - or rather, buckled me in.